Archive for December, 2008


sometimes a gift is not something you get, but something you let go of

The quote by Campbell below reflects the burden that was lifted from me  (and continues to lift as I accept and sit with and evolve in my practice), especially since I come from that “other worldly” focus of a fundamentalist Christian background.  Nietzche’s ideas were one of the first to influence this change in thinking, way back in college. Movement towards being in the now and accepting. Not a preconceived expectation. Bringing compassion into that moment . . .
Nietzche was the one who did the job for me. At a certain moment in his life, the idea came to him of what he called “the love of your fate.” Whatever your fate is, whatever the hell happens, you say, “This is what I need.” It may look like a wreck, but go at it as though it were an opportunity, a challenge. If you bring love to that moment — not discouragement — you will find the strength is there. Any disaster you can survive is an improvement in your character, your stature, and your life. What a privilege! This is when the spontaneity of your own nature will have a chance to flow.

American mythologist, writer & philosopher Joseph Campbell (1904 – 1987)

shit happens – teaching happens

Dukkha is our best teacher.

It will not be persuaded by any pleading of misery to let go of us.

If we may say to a human teacher, “I don’t feel well….,” the teacher may reply, “I am very sorry, but if you want to go home, then you must go. If we say to dukkha, “Look, I don’t feel well…. I want to go home,”

dukkha says, “That’s fine, but I am coming along.”

There is no way to say goodbye to it unless and until we have transcended our reactions. This means that we have looked dukkha squarely in the eye and seen it for what it is: a universal characteristic of existence and nothing else.

The reason we are fooled is that because this life contains so many pleasant occasions and sense contacts, we think if we could just keep this pleasantness going dukkha would never come again. We try over and over again to make this happen, until in the end we finally see that the pleasantness cannot continue because the law of impermanence intervenes….

So we continue our search for something new, because everybody else is doing it too.

— Ayya Khema, When the Iron Eagle Flies

(still changing diapers, washing bottles, looking into precious eyes, smelling the tops of heads and not sleeping –  it’s all good)


This week’s enlightenment

Clean bottles: change diapers 🙂

(visiting family for the holidays – one month old twins)


As good as it gets ?

Ego is like a room of your own, a room with a view with the temperature and the smells and the music that you like. You want it your own way. You’d just like to have a little peace, you’d like to have a little happiness, you know, just “gimme a break.”

But the more you think that way, the more you try to get life to come out so that it will always suit you, the more your fear of other people and what’s outside your room grows. Rather than becoming more relaxed, you start pulling down the shades and locking the door. When you do go out, you find the experience more and more unsettling and disagreeable. You become touchier, more fearful, more irritable than ever. The more you try to get it your way, the less you feel at home.

–Pema Chodron, Start Where You Are


My favorite – honest and beautiful

I can get sentimental over the holidays (I suppose it’s better than bitter and/or depressed).  I have an affinity to certain timeless and transcendent lessons in childhood stories, The Grinch, Charlie Brown, Pee Wee’s Christmas  (HAH!) . . . but the video below is a clip of my all time favorite.  No speaking (but for a bit of music and song) – there is no need for words.  Beautiful renderings in pastels and what I feel is the most HONEST lesson about life – joy, hope, imagination, clinging, sorrow and Impermanence.


Shut the F up



Since in order to speak, one must first listen, learn to speak by listening.

~ Mevlana Rumi Quotes from Rumi Daylight: A Daybook of Spiritual Guidance

What do you do to still that screaming monkey in your head, so you can hear – before opening your mouth? 

My greatest regrets have been opening my mouth before having listened.  My greatest regrets will continue to be opening my mouth before I have listened.  In order to listen I do not need to quiet others. I need to turn attention to what arises within . . .  and let it go.

Deep Breathes


Dirty Dawg


From, –Jack Kornfield,  A Path with Heart
(Jack basically says it all, no need for much comment, so throw me a bone – I’m a novice at sitting)

For some, [the] task of coming back a thousand or ten thousand times in meditation may seem boring or even of questionable importance. But how many times have we gone away from the reality of our life?–perhaps a million or ten million times! If we wish to awaken, we have to find our way back here with our full being, our full attention. . .

In this way, meditation is very much like training a puppy. You put the puppy down and say, “Stay.” Does the puppy listen? It gets up and runs away. You sit the puppy back down again. “Stay.” And the puppy runs away over and over again. Sometimes the puppy jumps up, runs over and pees in the corner, or makes some other mess. Our minds are much the same as the puppy, only they create even bigger messes. In training the mind, or the puppy, we have to start over and over again.

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