Have you ever witnessed a toddler fall?
Often you’ll notice that they do not cry until they look around and find their mother. It is only when they see their mother (or guardian) that they go running into safe arms and let out their cry. Why?
An evolved parent is a a sturdy and safe container for the child’s unpleasant emotions.
As we evolve in our practice, we too become better containers for the unpleasant things that arise.
To parent oneself can mean facing and confronting the disowned self and embracing it.
I came across this quote by Jack Kornfield from “Buddha’s Little Instruction Book” that made me think about this developmental process:
Even our anger can be held in a heart of kindness